I have many “titles” I truly cherish and am proud of – wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, (former) teacher, (new) business owner, etc. However, the one “title” or character description that I have come to embrace and take ownership over the years is being AUTHENTIC. It took years for me to truly embrace this quality, and on some days, I still can’t decifier if it’s a blessing or a curse.
My best, and sometimes worse, quality is the inability to be fake. I just truly can not “hide” my feelings or “act”. As I get older (and hope a little wiser), I just don’t have the energy to be anything other than myself. Am I perfect? Absolutely not, and you will hear me repeat that A LOT. I overreact at times, nag, say something in the heat of the moment that I probably don’t really mean, have a short fuse when I’m not feeling well, wear my feelings on my sleeve, and so on. However, I own my actions, give honest feedback, love big, give what I can, share what I have, and constantly try to find ways to be a better “me”. If I feel or think a certain way, my body language, energy, and face will have my “thoughts” written all over them. These qualities probably inhibit me from having a large “following” on social media or a huge circle of friends. I do not say this negativity. I say it proudly. The “following” or friends I have, are true, hardcore, have your back QUALITY, REAL, AUTHENTIC people. I will take quality over quantity any day. I want the “call me on my shit”, help me through hard times, cry with me, laugh with me, people in my life, because those people are hard to find and I value each and every one of them!
How does this relate to “Sister Tribe”? I knew coming in to this business that I would not be the most “popular”, have the largest following, or make a huge profit. I did not put myself out there to make any “gains “. I’ve had a people tell me that I’m too cheap, too expensive, not competitive enough, and I need to do things like such and such boutique. While I value constructive criticism, I didn’t take a leap of faith to be like everyone else. I took a leap of faith to be MYSELF, set an example for my daughters, give back to my community, and most of all, to be AUTHENTIC.
Although I probably donated every bit of profit I made this week, I am okay with that. Why? Because through this process, I have had friends and family give their time to literally help me with nothing in return. I know, I know….thats what friends are supposed to do. Y’all, I mean work a long, hot, exhausting 13 hour day simply because they believe in me. Give up their weekend and sleeping in on a Saturday morning to watch my girls so I can attend an event. Take time out of their busy day, to email, text, or call, just simply to check on me or encourage. Stay up until 2 in the morning, on a work day, helping me tag clothes. Litterally, dropped what they were doing in that moment, to help me with whatever crisis I was having. This may not seem like much to some, but it tremendously makes an impact on me. These are people just as busy. They have kids, families, husbands, boyfriends, full time jobs, errands and tons of stress just like I do.
There have been so many sleepless nights and long days that I have dedicated to learning and mastering new skills. I’ve sacrificed and “given up” things, events, and moments to prove to myself I can do this. I’ve cried myself to sleep at night with fear of failure.
Yes, I am still okay with all of this! Crazy, I know, and once again, why??? Because it has shown me strength that I didn’t know existed. This process has shown the quality of friends in my life, made me so damn thankful for the blessings in my life, find a new self worth, and embrace the imperfect person that I am. So, at the end of the day, I can reflect and truly say that I am trying to do the best I (keyword here I) can do.
I knew coming into this, and still know, Sister Tribe will not ever be a “get rich” type of business, but what I didn’t know is I would “get rich” in so many other aspects of my life. For that, I want to say THANK YOU to my tribe for simply being AUTHENTIC. I value you, and the life lessons you’ve provided, more than you’ll probably ever know! 😘
Having “Sister Tribe”, and a true Sister Tribe, has shown me that there ARE people who still value authenticity, hard work, and individuality much more than most would expect. People, who deep down in their heart and soul, want to see others succeed for absolutely no reward or recognition. These are qualities and characteristics I want among my tribe. I don’t want to feel the need to be guarded with my words, embarrassed about an emotion or reaction, worry about how something is perceived. I want authentic, true, know my intentions people in my life.
For all the women out there stressing to be perfect, tired of impressing others, giving energy to people or things you think don’t deserve it. STOP! You can be YOU and find a tribe that values YOU, appericates YOU, believes in YOU. If, for any reason you feel the need to be anything other than authentic, recognize that as a red flag and find a different tribe! Love y’all! 😘😘😘